He’s Not Playing Hard to Get; You’re Hard to Get Rid Of
It’s a common misconception among women that a man playing hard to get is a challenge to be pursued. However, the reality is often the opposite. If you find yourself constantly chasing after a man, bending over backwards to accommodate him, it's not endearing—it's a red flag for both you and him. A man who is genuinely interested in you will make the effort and pursue you. If you're always the one initiating, it's time to take a step back.
The Value of Being Hard to Get
Being hard to get isn’t about playing games; it’s about respecting yourself and recognizing your own worth. You should be a prize to be won, not someone who is always available at the beck and call of someone else. Remember, just like in nature, the egg never swims to the sperm; similarly, a woman should not have to chase a man.
The Chase: A Psychological Perspective
Men are traditionally the hunters, not just in human relationships but across the animal kingdom. They appreciate what they have to work hard for. Consider the hunter who brags about the deer he tracked for miles—his prize is valued because of the effort it took to win it. Similarly, when a man invests effort into winning you over, he values you more. This doesn’t diminish your worth; it amplifies it because he has to rise to the occasion to match your standards.
The Importance of Self-Respect
Your actions in a relationship reflect your self-esteem. If you’re constantly making yourself overly available or you’re bending over backward for a man who gives minimal effort, it’s time to reassess. You deserve a partner who sees your value and pursues you with the respect and enthusiasm you merit. Set the bar high—if he’s interested, he’ll rise to meet it.
Choosing a Partner: Reflections on Self-Worth
Choosing someone who respects and values you is a reflection of your own self-love. Ask yourself if the person you're with, or are pursuing, is someone you'd want for your child. If he’s not, why would he be good enough for you? You are the prize, and it’s crucial that your partner recognizes and celebrates this.
Closing Thoughts
Stop being the woman who’s hard to get rid of and become the woman who’s worth pursuing. It’s not just about being chased; it’s about being valued. Respect yourself enough to only accept the attention and affection of someone who truly appreciates what you have to offer. Remember, you set the standard for how you should be treated, so set it high.
Xoxo,
It Girl Playbook 💋
P.S. To listen to this discussion in audio format, you can check out the episode He’s Not Playing Hard To Get, You’re Hard To Get Rid Of on Spotify Podcast or Apple Podcast.