Embracing Selfishness to Change Your Life
The Wizard Liz, known for her advice on helping people become the highest version of themselves, had her own transformation as well, where she went from a people-pleaser to a self-empowered success story. Her story teaches us the importance of being selfish with our time, energy, and personal space. Growing up in a challenging environment, Liz found that prioritizing her own needs was not only necessary for survival but was crucial in crafting a life filled with happiness and opportunities.
Selfishness as Self-Preservation
Liz's journey began with a decisive move to distance herself from toxicity, including an abusive relationship with her father. By choosing to be selfish with her surroundings and the people she allowed into her life, she was able to focus on healing, personal growth, and eventually, on thriving. Her selfishness wasn't about neglecting others; it was about ensuring she was her best self, able to support not just herself but also those she loves.
The Irony of Selfishness
What might seem paradoxical yet profoundly true is that by being selfish, Liz became capable of great generosity. After filling her own cup first, she had plenty to offer others. This overflow allowed her to help her mother, collaborate with her sister on new ventures, and positively influence her community. This highlights an often overlooked truth: the most self-sufficient people often have the most to give.
Selfishness vs. Self-Neglect
The misconception that being selfish means stepping on others to get ahead is debunked through Liz’s philosophy. Being selfish means prioritizing yourself so that you're in the best position to make decisions that enhance your life. It means valuing your time and choosing how to spend it wisely, whether that’s by pursuing personal development, starting a business, or simply learning to say no when it's necessary.
Practical Steps to Embrace Your Selfishness
- Prioritize Personal Development: Instead of dwelling on past traumas or current frustrations, use your time to improve yourself.
- Set Boundaries: Learn to say no or to offer help on your terms, ensuring you don’t compromise on your own goals and well-being.
- Invest in Yourself: Whether it's through education, health, or hobbies, ensure that you are always putting yourself first.
Closing Thoughts
The Wizard Liz's story is a powerful reminder that sometimes, being selfish is the most responsible choice you can make. It’s about making sure you are healthy, fulfilled, and equipped to take on the world. By being the best version of yourself, you not only transform your own life but also set a precedent for how others treat you and, importantly, how they treat themselves. So, as we continue our journey to becoming It Girls, let’s learn to be a little more selfish—it might just be the key to our success.
Stay inspired, prioritize your growth, and remember, stay hot. See you in the next one!
Xoxo,
It Girl Playbook 💋
P.S. To listen to this discussion in audio format, you can check out the episode TheWizardliz: Selfish people Win at the End of the Day on Spotify Podcast or Apple Podcast.